Don’t be fooled, everyone new to the swinger lifestyle is or was worried about something when they first started. Let me go over some of the most common fears that most people have. Read on to feel better about your fears.
1) My partner will fall in love with someone else
This is probably the #1 concern couples have, which is why I made it first. It was hard enough finding someone, so you don’t want to lose them to someone else. The chances of this actually happening are very slim, possible but slim. Ted and I met this way, but I’ve never heard of other couples like us. Also, we were both in marriages that weren’t really working out, and we spent a lot of time with the two separate couples, Ted and I together and our partners together in different places.
This would never happen to us now as we are so secure in our relationship (remember swinging will not fix a broken marriage, it will only make it worse). I’m not worried about her running off with someone else.
2) He will have a bigger dick than you
Yes, there will be men with bigger penises than you and there will be men with smaller penises. Get over. Women don’t really care about size (within reason). If you’re really worried about it being too small, then consider rocking gently (without having sex with the other partner), that way the smaller size will work in your favor. Trust me, oral sex is much easier and more pleasurable for the lady when the penis is not too big.
3) She enjoys it more than you Sexually
This is a possibility, especially when two women get together (home field advantage and all). Instead of worrying about it, why don’t you learn from the experience? Ask him what the other partner did that was so nice, and try doing it for his partner as well. This is a great opportunity to learn some new tricks.
4) Meeting someone you know at a swing club
So you go to visit your first swing club, walk in, check in at the front desk, go for a drink and right across the bar is your cousin you haven’t seen in years. This actually happened to us, it just wasn’t our first trip to the club. Ted ran into his cousin who he hadn’t seen in years and they kept in touch for about 10 years after that. All went well.
If this ever happens to you, just remember that they are there for the same reason you are. I know that doesn’t make it any less awkward for you, but it should help. You are there to meet people and have fun, they too. Make the most of it and it could really work in your favor. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing, sex is very natural.
5) She will be able to reach orgasm more easily than me.
This is also a possibility, but is it really a problem? I don’t see why you should worry about that. We are all different, and you may need toys to go out with, or something else, just let your partner know and things should work out just fine. Enjoy things, relax and don’t worry or think about it, and you will have a good time. Trust me.
So there you have it, your biggest concerns are resolved. Now relax and go out and have fun together.
