When I started learning how to be more successful with women… I thought I needed to be really good looking with perfect teeth and a full head of hair to get really attractive women. I’m pretty sure you probably thought the same thing. I mean it makes sense to us guys, doesn’t it?
Men are usually only attracted to women we find visually attractive, so we assume attraction works for women too. Well, I’m here to tell you that it’s not! Women are much more attracted to the traits that are within a man than to his appearance.
I’m pretty sure you’ve seen beautiful women drop dead with men who are below average in the looks department. She saw what he had inside her and was drawn to him.
Sure, women can feel a strong attraction to a man who is a handsome model, however, you don’t have to be that guy to make her feel the same way. So what is it that women find attractive in a man?
Traits like leadership, courage, decisiveness, confidence, and masculinity just to name a few. The good news is that these are traits that any man can cultivate and embody. Evolutionarily speaking, if a man possesses these traits, he is able to fulfill his role as “protector and provider”. Although we no longer live in such a primitive culture, women still look for partners who can fulfill that role.
So what can you do? The most influential decision you can make RIGHT NOW is to ditch your youthful tendencies and start “preparing.”
Start developing your leadership skills. Go read books about it…learn what the best leaders do and start emulating them. Work on your courage. Start doing things you fear. Scared to death of public speaking? Go and make a hundred speeches until you get over it. Trust your own decision making. Even if it goes wrong, you will have learned that it was a bad decision and you can make a different one. Go learn what it is to be a man. As they say “opposites attract”. You can’t expect to charm a woman by acting in a way that is childish or feminine.
In due time and with enough application, you will begin to embody a powerful trait that only a few men possess: masculine confidence. This is what will allow you to walk into a room and catch the eye of even the most attractive woman.
