Many people get married before even talking about having children. When people get married, they are usually in love with each other. Many times they don’t think about every important detail of their future together as a couple and future family. This is a big mistake that people make when they get married. People always remember to talk about money, finances, religion, morals and values, but for some reason they leave out how they are going to raise their children.
You might assume that since you’ve fallen in love with someone else and you have similar values, you’ll both be on the same page when it comes to raising children. While there may be some truth to this, it is still very dangerous not to discuss how you want to raise children and what your ideas are before you get married. Maybe you’ve never thought about that before. It’s okay.
Now is the time for both of you to sit down and start doing some research and due diligence when it comes to raising children. You can do this by talking to your parents, attending seminars, or reading books together. You need to see what makes sense to both of you. Each person will naturally have an answer, whether they liked a particular idea or not. Some ideas can be undecided and not know if they are good or not, that’s okay. The point is that you want to make sure that you both agree on the same things that are very important with the children.
Some questions to ask yourself are. What are you going to allow your children to eat? Are you going to allow them to eat fast food and sweets? If so, will this be normal or only for birthday parties and special events? How long are you going to allow your children to watch TV and play on the computer when they are little? Do you think it is healthy for children to watch television? If so, what TV shows were computer games you would allow them to play?
Unfortunately, many parents today do not raise their children the old-fashioned way. Sometime around the 1960s or 1970s, the roles were reversed. Children used to revolve around parents and now parents often revolve around children. In today’s society, children often run the house. Parents attend to all the needs of the child and actually negotiate with the child when they want something. No no means no more. Not to say, the answer is no until you annoy me enough and then I’m in.
Are you going to make your children worry and listen? What will you do when they throw tantrums? Do you both believe in teaching a child who the parents are? Will you clearly define boundaries for your children? Are you going to look at their sweet, cute little faces and give in to them?
As gentlemen, the one I really respect for your work is a man named John Rosemond. He has many wonderful books on raising children. Everything he teaches comes from the Bible. Whether you are religious or not, these are basic practices for how you should raise children. It’s all based on common sense and what really works. You and your partner need to do some research on John Rosemond and find out which book by him you can read and discuss. Getting on the same page now will be much easier than it will be at the moment and you have a screaming child.
