“Out of suffering have arisen the strongest souls; the most massive characters are scarred.” ~ Kahlil Gibran
These words came to me the other day and I thought wow, this says it all! I decided to look up the words. dying Y heal in the dictionary. Synonyms for dying are disappear, fall, vanish, vanish, and become extinct. Synonyms for heal are restore health, mend, heal and mend. Perfect!
Do we have to be in a place where we are dying to be healed?
Do we need to be at the bottom to rise up?
I don’t know about you but I did it! It was only when I said I couldn’t live any longer that my deep healing began!
I often wonder why so many people are terrified of healing, deep healing. I wonder, what are they so afraid of? We spend much of our lives living in a state of discomfort clinging to patterns from the past. I keep meeting people, including clients I work with in my practice, who recognize how afraid they are to let go because it’s all they know, even if the behaviors are no longer serving them.
I ask them, “Do you think you have the ability to change?” Often they respond with uncertainty and share their sense of helplessness knowing how to do it. That worry prevents many from moving forward and becoming all their hearts desire.
I know first hand that healing is a process that must happen from within. It takes courage and tenacity to heal. To truly heal you must be willing to give up everything that no longer serves you. That’s the only way healing works. We can put temporary Band-Aids, but the wounds will never go away!
You may notice that your mind says one thing while your heart says another. What seems to be simple can seem very complicated. I remember wondering, many years ago, if I really wanted to be cured. Of course my mind said yes, but my body said no! I learned through a wonderful healer who practices the art of kinesiology that what our mind wants doesn’t necessarily transfer to our body. In retrospect, I understand it very clearly. Of course I wanted to be cured of a crippling disease for life, but was I ready to make healing my only priority? Was I willing to dig in and do the intense work it would take to rewrite my DNA? Seven years ago I had no idea what that meant. Today I know the difference and I continue on my healing path with gratitude every day of my life. Today, my greatest joy is empowering others to have the courage to heal like I have.
Take a moment and ask yourself, “Do I really want to heal? Do I want to get rid of all the ‘stuff’ that keeps me stuck, passive, lonely, angry, depressed, controlling.” The list seems different to each of us, but you can trust that what you’re identifying is getting in the way of inner peace and well-being.
When you invite the healing process, you open yourself up to all possibilities. It’s about knowing, opening up and renouncing. It is what your heart and soul should do as you journey through the process of being at peace with yourself and the world around you! It is nothing short of a transformational miracle! I know, I’m on the trip.
Make a list of everything you would like to change about yourself, that is, behaviors, patterns, and reactions. Ask yourself, “What gives me joy? When do I feel deep sadness?
Write it. It belongs to me. Understand it.
Whatever you do, don’t judge yourself! You’ve had enough judgment in your life!
Healing begins when you open your heart to be the person you want to be.
