Sounds pretty absurd, doesn’t it? But what if you turned this idea around? What if instead of viewing online dating as an obstacle, you used it as an opportunity?
Dating can feel hopeless
Any of us who have ever used online dating to find a relationship knows that it can be frustrating and overwhelming trying to sift through the endless number of people who are searching.
First, the strange profiles. Then the disappointing dates. Sometimes you even end up with what you feel is a great date, but then he never calls again or fades away after a while or maybe you even considered it a relationship, but now it’s over.
So, you give up. “Forget it,” you say to yourself. “Online dating doesn’t work. It will never work. I will be alone for the rest of my life.”
Doesn’t that sound so familiar? Any of us who have experienced online dating have definitely been there.
Dating as therapy
But just as therapy provides people with tools to help them alleviate or heal a disorder, the process of dating someone (when done the right way) can also be a tool to help you get through the pain of past relationships and the fears of ‘never finding the only one. ‘
With the proper guidance, I tell you that not only is it possible to find what you’re looking for, but the process of getting there can be a lot less frustrating and frustrating.
In fact, you can even have fun and gain more and more confidence through it.
But how?
The key is to first determine what you are really looking for. Next, find out what patterns of situations have occurred frequently and what have been the biggest challenges.
Once you identify these two elements, you can be more honest with yourself about your observations of potential partners.
Working on yourself, concentrating on yourself and creating limits around yourself will allow you to navigate online dating in a much freer way.
It sounds more difficult than it is, but in reality what you are doing is limiting your focus to only people who are potential candidates for a fantastic and committed relationship, rather than blindly choosing someone based on their appearance, similar interests or income levels.
It’s possible!
When I found out what I was doing in my love life that wasn’t serving me, suddenly the hope and possibility of a fantastic, committed relationship came true.
Through this new perspective, it was as if I looked around and realized that my fears were not reality at all. I had potential suitors who came from all directions, and now it was my job to choose between them.
And over time, potential candidates to pick went from weird and creepy dudes to handsome dudes with admirable and interesting qualities.
I enjoyed many dates with many different men, but most importantly, I was in love with my own life the entire time.
This allowed me to open up to someone who I might have fired without knowing before, or who I would never have met because I had given up dating, but who has since become someone with whom I am sharing a love and loving relationship. committed relationship.
I believe that anyone who is willing to take a closer look at what is happening in their life, take the necessary steps to improve their situation, and stay committed to themselves throughout the process, may have what they are looking for.
