When a loved one dies, it is difficult to face the reality of never seeing that person again. It is extremely painful to pick up the pieces and move on. Don’t you wish you could find that safe place where you can be free from death, pain and deep emotions over the loss of a loved one? Wouldn’t it be nice to just decide that you just won’t deal with those situations that make you feel uncomfortable, scared, or emotional? Wouldn’t it be great if you could choose exactly what you want to have happen in your life, how it happens, and when it happens? It sure would be great, but the bottom line is that we can’t run from fear all our lives; We cannot hide under our covers or behind our parents forever; We don’t have the option of writing that perfect story of our life. More importantly, we cannot hide from death; it is part of everyone’s life. Therefore, we have to be in the moment today, live life and face every experience that comes our way, no matter what happens.
So, let me ask you this. Are you hiding from your emotions and your grief over the loss of a loved one, or any situation in your life, for that matter? Do you find yourself burying your guilt, anger, resentment, and other emotions because it is so much easier to do this than to face every feeling? Are you afraid of what will happen when you face each emotion? Have you tried coping with your pain and felt things get worse, and as a result you ran away even faster than before? If you’re like me, you’ve answered “yes” to at least one of these questions at some point in your life. I get it! I understand. But, here’s the deal, if you don’t face your emotions, your pain, or your fears, you’re only hurting yourself in the long run. You’re setting yourself up for even greater pain, guilt, or anger, or whatever the emotion is. You may not realize it, but burying your feelings, or hiding from fear, or running from your pain, closes a part of you that deserves to live. It is imperative for your health and well-being to face your fears, emotions, and pain head-on. If you don’t face it and don’t accept it when the situation occurs, it will remind you over and over again throughout your life until you get over it.
So whatever your situation, whether it’s to overcome pain, overcome a fear, or sort through different emotions, give it a try to see the size:
Feel and face your feelings! Be honest with yourself about your emotions! Accept the fact that you are in this situation! Once you feel it, face it, and accept it (on a very deep level), intend to let it go forever! When you do the intention, do it in the depths of your heart (not lip service)! Lastly, keep going in a healthy way. You can do it! When you face your feelings for the death of a loved one and go through the grieving process, then you have the strength and courage to move on with your life in a “healthy” way. I wish you the best!
