My goal in working with men like you is to help you learn how to get a girlfriend, and an attractive girlfriend, because no one should “settle” for what is available.
This is not a format on how to get a girlfriend online, but in real life (there is nothing wrong with meeting women online, but it is not my specialty).
Well, I would like to teach you the four steps you must follow to meet a woman; not only an attractive woman, but a woman suitable for you so that she becomes your girlfriend. These four steps will help you get a girlfriend at 13 or 53 years old. As you will see, it is a kind of art.
STEP 1
Step number one seems pretty obvious, but it’s really important. Get a life!
Stop surfing the Internet. Stop reading articles like this every day. Stop surfing the Internet, playing video games, or watching endless hours of “South Park” (my favorite TV show, by the way). Go out into the world and start doing things.
Ask yourself this question: “How many people do you know that you can honestly say are really interesting people?” They are doing things that are different from other people. They are what I like to refer to as individuals. does that describe you?
I’m being a bit snobbish and arrogant because I want to inspire you. In fact, I want to piss you off.
You need to get yourself a life. If you’re a guy who sucks with women, you’re probably not very happy or interesting.
You’re probably not really living the life you feel you should be living. A happy man is a man who lives in harmony with his nature (my brief definition).
If you want to get a girlfriend, you have to get a life first. So, go out into the world and do the things you’ve always wanted to do! OKAY?
If you don’t have a lot of money, be creative. Be imaginative. Be active. Get a life. Do cool, fun, interesting and adventurous things. I refuse to believe that those are not available to you right now. As soon as you finish reading this article, you can leave your house and do something interesting.
STEP 2
Step number two in how to get a girlfriend is to acquire some social skills. This really happens as a result of being a socialized human being. Guys who are a bit reserved, isolated, and introverted tend to have a problem with this.
Guess what? I am an introvert. Usually men who need to learn social skills don’t have them naturally, are a bit introverted and unsocialized.
If you get a life, (remember, that’s step #1), you’ll suddenly be surrounded by people and you’ll see that social skills are essential in learning to help you with things like approaching women.
When it comes to how to get a girlfriend, approaching a woman is something you have to learn to do. In fact, I would call it a right of way. Regardless of whether or not you meet the woman of your dreams through a cold approach (and I’m here to tell you, she probably won’t), you need to learn how to do a cold approach.
This is an experience that every man needs: to be able, on a given day, to see a woman and approach her, talk to her and get her phone number. Every man needs to have the experience of going from not knowing a woman to knowing her. It is very powerful and changes your reality. He helps you know that you can go after the things you want in life, not just women, but everything.
So pick up some social skills. Learn to approach women. Learn to flirt. Learn to climb. Learn how to get a date. Learn to date. There is an art to that. It’s not just dinner and a movie. Social skills are important.
The boys like to show it to me. There are many trainers out there. I personally think I’m excellent at it. I know several others who are also good at it.
But again, pick up some social skills. That is step #2.
STEP 3
Step number three is to get a social life. The good thing that happens when you have a life and you acquire social skills is that you can combine them into what I would call a healthy and balanced social life.
Things like: being the leader of your social circle and doing interesting things are very important.
Become “type 2” in your social circle, which means you’re in the community and you know what’s going on. You know what is fun and adventurous. You already know what has just been released or what has received good reviews. Or, get to know the kind of quiet, low-key hidden spots that no one else knows about and lead your social circle in and through these adventurous experiences.
Suddenly, you become the “it” guy, the “cool” guy. People want to come and be with you and do the things that you’re doing.
This is again something I had to undertake after Project Hollywood (you read “The Game”, right? Yeah, that was me, man…). Once that dissolved, I realized that “sarging” (also known as going out for the sole purpose of picking up girls) was not the end of all in attracting women into my life.
I had to go out into the world and get a real social life. This means making friends and bringing those friends with you on the particular outings you are going on and making them fun and adventurous.
In other words: start doing the things you want to do and meet the other people who are there doing it with you.
He is not a rocket science man.
Get out of your house right now (well, as soon as you finish this article). Start doing all the things you want to do. And he knows the other people who are there doing it with you. That’s how you get a social life.
STEP 4
Step number four may seem counterintuitive, but that’s precisely why it’s the hardest.
Step number four is to stop trying!
Step number one, you get a life. It becomes a natural way of life for you. Your lifestyle is rewarding. It’s interesting. He is adventurous. You are out there doing it and living it on a regular basis.
Step number two, you get some social skills. You don’t have to become Mystery, me, Tyler Durden or Neil Strauss. You don’t need to become an expert at flirting or socializing. It makes people weird. Just be decent about meeting and attracting women. You don’t have to be great.
Once you have a social life and meet women naturally and regularly, THEN you stop trying.
Do you want to know “the secret”? No, I’m not talking about the tasteless movie that came out a couple of years ago.
The secret is that to get a girlfriend, you don’t have to be trying to get a girlfriend. Relationships happen when you’re not looking. It happened to me that way and it happens to most people that way.
It’s rare that a guy sees a girl across the street, walks up to her, gets her number, takes her on a date, and they fall in love and live happily ever after. There’s usually a bit more art to it than that. Art is in how you live your life.
This is step number four because it is the highest level, the level of not doing (have you ever read Zen?).
For a while, you’re going to have to push yourself and push yourself. You are going to have to put a lot of energy into this and lean into your comfort zone on a regular basis. At a certain point, once you reach a level of proficiency (not proficiency, just proficiency), stop trying.
Stop thinking about it! Stop reading websites about it (yes, this means YOU, man). Get out into the world and make this a part of your daily way of life. The right woman will appear when you least expect it.
Thanks for your time!
