Have you noticed that sometimes it seems that it is the woman who qualifies you, no matter how ugly she is? But then at other times, you end up rating the most attractive women? The pendulum of who rates who swings back and forth, depending on supply and demand, social context, and who is the most dominant person.
How women rate men
When the woman is the one grading you, it seems almost impossible to meet all of her qualifications. But when you’re the one qualifying the woman, it seems too easy to get her… And she might just be the same woman! The strange thing about attraction is that it always has to do with the context. A fat guy with a super strong frame in the perfect social situation can frame control of a woman by making her believe that he’s the one to see if she’s good enough. And a woman can qualify as a high value man in the right context (nightclub).
After I discovered this phenomenon, I began to put myself in the best situations or frame control women (online game) to fall into my frame where I am the one who sees if I like it.
Of course, the “best situations” are being in social circles with lots of attractive women.
disqualify yourself
It doesn’t matter how good-looking or successful you are, if you find yourself in a frame where she’s the one grading you, she’ll find a grade you didn’t meet and reject you. Dont ask me why. This is how women’s brains work. And she will turn around and fuck a 50% guy just because she had low expectations for him. She is “congruent” with her low-value image of her.
Wayne Elise came up with a technique called self-disqualification. This works with smart women. You show women that you have no need to meet their qualifications. I have found that it is much more effective to frame control women to meet their qualifications. Of course, it has to be genuine. I never let women rate me, ever. I set the framework from the BEGINNING that I am the one who sees how interesting it is. And through hundreds and hundreds of online conversations, no woman has ever broken free of my frame of control. Why is that? It’s because even the hottest women crave to be taken by a strong man with high self-esteem. Sometimes I meet a woman who can’t believe how tight my body is, and she loves it.
The secret of all secrets is that she wants to buy your frame. It is in your frame that she finds meaning and comfort. It is not a battle of paintings. She’s just up front. At the end of the day, she wants to relax into your masculinity.
It’s frustrating because it leads to an abundance of sex that you’re not particularly interested in and a complete lack of sex that you feel would be the most rewarding for you.
play your cards right
For some girls you are the most important player and for some girls you are the most important choice. Your actual market value doesn’t really matter, all that matters is whether or not you played your cards right on that particular girl.
I’ve seen him play in real life a few times. It’s painful and it’s pathetic. In college, a girl he had a particular crush on ended up with a guy I always thought of as a bit of an insecure loser. On the plus side, this in turn encouraged one of her friends (who until then always acted like a queen bee around her) who I went out with and ended up in a fight to ask me out again.
It seemed counterintuitive because normally a girl who rejects you doesn’t do wonders for your prospects with her peers, but because that girl ended up with this chode, Miss Queen Bee rationalized that I must have been the one to get over her (and again, that’s not was true at all) which automatically made me the price for it.
Information about the female brain
Still, it gave me all the information I needed on a female brain. They can only judge men in relation to their visible social context. That’s why sometimes you look like the apex predator and sometimes you look like a bottom feeder. You are the same person, what changes is your relative place in the hierarchy in which she lives.
He’s just disappointed that it never ends up being this contested romantic game you see in TV shows and movies. She’s always a thirsty slut or a cold shoulder.
I have seen this happen and have experienced it quite a bit. Chasing the unattainable is partly human nature, but the chase is more than half the fun. outside in the cold, but it makes it harder for you to tell yourself that they like you for you. I guess that’s what makes liking you so important.
