Are you angry and frustrated or negative most of the time? Can’t you have a good and fulfilling relationship because you are afraid or full of negative emotions? Then let us explore some tips to change your attitude and improve your relationship.
1. Make up your mind! You must decide that you not only want to change your attitude, but that you WILL CHANGE it. Wake up and understand that you are not a victim of circumstances or your emotions and that you can change your attitude. It is in your power to do so.
2. Let go of the wounds of the past! Whatever happened to you is in the past and nothing you do today can change it. Release the people who have hurt you deeply in the past. Don’t keep repeating the words they said or believing the hurtful things they said or did. If it has already happened, no amount of restlessness or outburst of anger will make it go away. If your wounds have been very deep, you may need professional help to let them go.
3. Stop giving yourself permission to be negative. Changing your attitude means that you stop giving yourself permission to be negative. I know the current thinking is that you should say and do exactly what you feel and people should put up with it and deal with it, but if you want your relationship to be better, that attitude can’t fly. Decide that it is not okay for you to be abusive, critical, or negative towards the man in your life. Go through all the scenarios in which you have been negative and see how you have given yourself permission to be negative. His reasoning probably followed the thought that if he was going to behave in a certain way, then he was allowed to repay him by being unpleasant and hurtful. You must withdraw that permission and decide that no matter how you act, you will not react negatively. You will be in control of your attitude and not of him or the circumstances. This change will take time and vigilance, as you will be tempted to revert to your old ways.
Four. Change your thoughts! Changing your attitudes means changing your thoughts. If you keep thinking about how he has hurt you or how unfair life is, guess what happens? You become negative as poisonous negative thoughts find expression in your life. Realize that life is a wonderful privilege that you can only live once and that being unhappy and dissatisfied is wasting a once-in-a-lifetime gift. You owe it to yourself to have a happy and fulfilling relationship!
5. Have a grateful heart. A grateful heart will change your negative attitude to positive. If you think about everything good and wonderful in your life, you will be happier. Try it now … think of something you like about your man or your life … don’t you feel better? Abort negative thoughts and focus instead on the good in him and in your life. Of course, you shouldn’t deny the negatives, but most of your energy and time should be spent on the positives in your life.
6. Change what you can. Deal with the things in your life that weigh you down and make your thoughts angry and frustrated. Does your weight weigh on you? Do thoughts about your finances ever get dark? Then find ways to deal with those things that you can deal with. You should do your best to deal with the problem, but you should also give yourself a break. You may never be gaunt in size8, but you can be a healthy size16, so be realistic in your change efforts.
Changing your attitude so that you can change your relationship is within your power and understanding. If you put into practice the 6 tips given, you will see a change in your attitude.
