When the Jonas Brothers movie came out, it seemed like everyone was focused on the young man’s relationship with his mother and potential girlfriends with the term “mom’s kids.” As an expert on Mommy’s Boys and Daddy’s Girls, I have an answer on whether or not the Jonas Brothers are Mommy’s boys. The answer may surprise you.
There are a number of reasons people speculate on whether or not Kevin, Joe, and Nick are Mom’s sons, but the number one reason that stands out is their purity rings, which signifies their promise to be celibate until marriage. While many of her fans have only learned about purity rings from the Jonas Brothers, purity rings have been around for at least fifteen years among evangelical Christians.
The brothers’ parents are evangelical Christians and their father, Kevin, Sr. is a former Assembly of God pastor. Kevin, Sr. and his wife, Denise, have taken an active role in their children’s careers in an effort to protect their children from the ravages of fame. Young people are receptive to their parents ‘leadership and are respectful, following their parents’ religious belief system. Somehow, this has earned them the nickname “Mommy’s boys!”
For whatever reason, when a son wears a purity ring and makes that commitment, instead of people seeing it as part of his relationship with God, they assume it says more about his relationship with his mother. Perhaps it is because they think that such commitment should make the mother breathe a great sigh of relief. Similarly, many look to daughters who make the promise of purity and make assumptions about their relationships with their parents rather than looking at the girls’ relationship with God.
Rings of purity and promise are seen as an extension of parental control over their teens rather than as part of the maturing process and a teen’s ability to have their own relationship with God that includes responsibility and limits. Of course, many parents must appreciate the advantageous nature of the promise of purity and even use it to manipulate their teenage children. All they are really doing is manipulating themselves into a comfort zone where they can feel that their children are safe! Whether or not a teen makes that promise first or lives up to it second is ultimately a decision made by the teen or young adult.
That said, I don’t make a connection between Kevin, Joe, and Nick who are committed to purity and potentially being Mom’s kids. That commitment stems from your religion, family tradition, and loyalty.
Another thing that makes people think that the Jonas Brothers are mommy’s boys is the degree to which their parents are in their lives and careers and on the road with them. However, both parents are present, not just Mom. Nick has reportedly said, “We’re just normal kids. We’re not perfect. We’re just living each day as it comes, trying to make our mother proud.” Remember what everyone, male or female, is willing to do the first time a movie camera is turned on and that is smile at the camera and say, “Hi, Mom!” Between childbirth and all the ways mothers reach out and sacrifice for their children, mom tends to come first in all of our hearts.
So this is not the case with a stage mom hanging around and supervising. Both of Jonas’ parents are involved in protecting their children. In an interview with Rachel Ray last May, Denise said: “What has been so great for us is that we have remained a family unit and we have been able to be intact as a family. And I have been able to be a mother and be in her life and her daddy’s there … “Denise says she and Kevin Sr. practice gratitude and teach their kids to do it too. What that means is that whenever something good happens to them as individuals or as a family, they take the time to thank God for it.
Denise’s enthusiasm for being able to be in her children’s lives even as they pursue their rock and roll careers is not the joy of an overbearing, overbearing mother. Rather, it is the pleasure of a responsible mom and dad who have spent more than two decades training their children to be responsible too.
Mommy’s boys are created when the father is unable to extend the invitation to his sons to leave their mother’s sphere of influence and enter her sphere of influence where they can learn to become men, focused on the safety of their mother. own masculinity. That invitation is not given when the parent is physically, emotionally, or mentally absent. Also, generally, a father who is a mother’s son cannot extend the invitation because he remains in his mother’s sphere of influence.
The children who receive this invitation from the father, respond to it over a period of years from the age of ten to adolescence. Having spent time in their father’s sphere of influence, being challenged by initiation rites and the competitive advantage of keeping up with their father in conversation and intellect, the sons are free to incorporate the sphere of influence of both. parents, creating balanced and grounded youth. that they have more options for love and success in life.
In families where parents extend the invitation to their children to intervene in the father’s sphere of influence, five things must happen.
1. The father (or significant male role model) must be physically available.
2. The father (or male role model) must be emotionally available.
3. The father (or male role model) must be able to “see” the son as a man.
4. The mother must honor and respect the father and masculinity in general.
5. The mother must give the child to the father.
Briefly and for the sake of the daughters’ fathers, it is a similar situation where young women relying on their femininity have received an invitation from the mother to leave the father’s sphere of influence for a time and re-enter the sphere of influence of the father. mother. So for that to happen, five things must happen.
1. The mother (or important female role model) must be physically available.
2. The mother (or female role model) must be emotionally available.
3. The mother (or female role model) must be able to “see” the daughter as a woman.
4. The father must honor and respect the mother and femininity in general.
5. The father must give the daughter to the mother.
From all appearances, the parents of the Jonas Brothers are busy meeting these five requirements to raise children that are based on their masculinity but respectful of women. They are, in essence, old-fashioned young gentlemen!
