So you were in a relationship with a guy for maybe a week or maybe even a year and then you discovered something that really upset you or got on your nerves. It could have been something big or it could have been something very, very small. Either way you gave up on him and felt like you couldn’t take it anymore.
What did you do then? You broke up with him because you felt ending the relationship was the best thing to do. Without even trying to resolve or even talk to your ex boyfriend about the underlying issues that were bothering you, you just broke up with your boyfriend!
He probably didn’t even see it coming. As if she was finished. He had no idea the real reason you left you and now he doesn’t even want to be bothered with you. But now you realize things weren’t as bad as you thought, you made a terrible mistake and you want to get them back.
Could this have been avoided? Probably yes, but you couldn’t take it anymore. Maybe you come from different backgrounds and everything he does seems insignificant to you. It could have been the way he ate his food with his fingers, or he constantly left the toilet running.
Maybe you didn’t like the way he left his hair in the sink after shaving, or the way he constantly leaves his dirty clothes on the floor that only you can see, even though he constantly walks on them. Maybe he doesn’t spend enough time with you or maybe he’s constantly at work trying to support you and his family.
Whatever the case may have been, maybe he never realized the innuendos you keep throwing at him and despite his ways, you realize that deep down he really is a great person. But now you want him back and the only thing is he wants nothing to do with you and everything you’ve tried so far has only made him more distant. He doesn’t even answer the phone anymore.
I am sure you have tried many things to get your ex boyfriend back, but what you should be doing is just the opposite. The best thing you can do right now is to leave your ex boyfriend alone if you want him back. That’s right… cut off all communication from your ex-boyfriend. The problem is that your ex-boyfriend feels embarrassed, humiliated, and maybe downright angry that you broke up with him for so little in his eyes.
Sometimes guys don’t always see things as they really are. But regardless of the situation or circumstances, guys have feelings too and when someone you love tells you that they have a problem with you or constantly nags you about things no matter how big or small the pain, especially when a guy knows that it is wrong. Regardless of whether he admits it or not.
If this is the case and you have been calling your ex boyfriend constantly and you have been ignoring his phone calls, then it is a clear indication that you need your time to think about the relationship. She gives her time to clear her head and realize her own faults and what she could have done and couldn’t on her own. It’s the only way she’s going to get it. Arguing about what he should and shouldn’t will never get him back. Trust me, it only makes things worse.
Regardless of whether you understand your own faults, it is important that you give your ex boyfriend your space. Regardless of whether you think she needs it or not, you should do it. If you don’t, you’ll only make the situation worse and come across as clingy, desperate, obsessed, and needy to him. Pushing it further away, no one wants to be with a controlling or obsessed person. You!
If you want him back, you have to give him his space. Don’t text him begging for a second chance or I love you messages. It doesn’t matter if you’re emailing them, texting them, MySpace, IMing them, or even showing up at your house. Just give him time to think about the relationship and give him time to miss you and the qualities that made him fall in love with you in the first place.
This will also give them time to figure out why you broke up with him and if he really cares about you, he’ll make the necessary changes to fix things. If you don’t give her space, she’ll never have time to think about the relationship and you’ll only drive the two of you further and further apart. Your ex boyfriend wants the person he first fell in love with, not the person you’ve become. Let me say it again, your ex boyfriend wants the person he first fell in love with and not the person you have become.
A lot of girls break up with their boyfriend just to see if they can get him back, it’s like a power trip. If this is what you did, then you are treading into dangerous waters. You see that when you do this you are playing with a man’s emotions, and you shouldn’t play with emotions. If this is what you did, you need to figure out why you really want to get back together with your ex. Do you really care about him because a person who truly loves her boyfriend wouldn’t put them through such pain and agony to prove her love?
In many cases, people who try to do things just to see how strong the relationship is have self-esteem issues. These issues must be resolved before you attempt to recover it. If this is you and you feel like you’re not good enough for your boyfriend, you’ll need to work on your self-esteem issues if you want him back.
Mind games only complicate things and will ultimately drive your ex further and further apart. So while you and your ex boyfriend are apart, it’s a good time to make the necessary changes and address any issues you can fix within yourself.
Despite the many problems your boyfriend may have, sometimes you may need to look at yourself first. No boyfriend wants to be with someone who she feels is demanding and high maintenance. If you get your ex back, make sure that you really want them so that you don’t put the person you love in such pain and agony.
